That my friendship with anyone hinges on personal appearance, as you put it, is totally not what I said. There’s a very large leap from saying “it’s preferable that my friends don’t put on weight” to saying that my friendship hinges on that. One of my best friends from my childhood began to suffer from endemic depression and put on weight as a result and basically did everything involved with hitting rock bottom in life. We’re not any less friends. But do I like him a little less in the sense that I prefer to pass my time with other friends? Sure. If it was just a case of weight gain it might be a similar case just in a much more minor degree. It’s really a straightforward point I’m making that people find offensive because, well, people are easily offended and like to be offended by concepts that sound offensive. None of what I’m saying contradicts the things you have said or the necessity to be sensitive to eating disorders. But basic realities are not why eating disorders are an issue in society, let’s not conflate issues.
@Doc I have to say I laughed in real life. Bravo.